Crushing on someone….. why it can’t work and is there love out there????

Finally getting time to write and it feels like ages since I have last been on this site. So quick recap on what has been going on.

Work. Work. Work and ..uhm work. Welcome to my dull life.



Okay I am admitting it. I have a crush and it is making me go mad inside out…

The problem is it is NEVER going to work. How do I know this? Cause I do have eyes and I can see that if there was a mere chance of this being something it would end in disaster.

When people encourage the fact that you might feel something for someone more than friends, don’t go on it cause stalking is WEIRDstalking-cat-o

May it be on a online or in real life. It can be seen as not harmful but sooner or later it may cause you to over annualized and  over react when that person is near. Trying to be near to him/her when you share company. often looking their way to see a glimpse of what you think you want more than anything. Freaking out to never be near you again is the end result.

Now for the person being stalked, it is flattering in the beginning then it begins so become a hassle to live with before getting scary like some of the shows on CRIME CHANNEL. My BFF tried to kill me. Stalkers. How-I-Met-Your-Mother

Scary as in they begin to think that you are capable of that if it is not stopped, but the bad thing about this is that it is done in the wrong ways 70% of the time.

Taking in consideration that each and every situation is different it all comes to the same point. Do you really want to be the WEIRDO and outcast of everybody.

There are so many ways of stalking it is scary to think it is happening every second of everyday. It might be you or your best friend or some stranger doing it. So take caution and think before you take crushing on someone to the next level.tumblr_ld5pilcmQw1qaxdato1_500

Back to the part of people/friends telling you that your crush has feelings for you after they find out about the crush bit. It is astoundingly the worst advice someone can give you but it is kind of reassurance that you are not in a bottomless pit. I have given that speech about a few times that time will tell and so on but in the end. What matters most is that if you guys were meant to be it would happen.


Don’t push the envelope cause you can’t wait for the RIGHT ONE, you might find that you can burn easily. Other than disappointment there will be regret, shame and dread. But the heart ache always seems to last only for as long as you are still fascinated by that person. Until the next one comes along…


They say that falling in LOVE is like taking a leap and trusting that you don’t fall. But is crushing really love? Does it really compare to true love? Some have proved to me that when you fall in love with someone it can start with a crush and end in happy ever after. But that is like one 1 out of 7 that it can happen to (guessing here the number can be higher in the odds of it happening.)

So is it love or just FASCINATION? What is the difference? so I ask something different – why do people fall out of love so quickly? Is it because of mistaken fascination as love? Another why is Divorce rate so high over the world? Is it because of society placing the perfect wife or husband and people fall for image more than what their hearts want? Daily-Life-GIFs-20-Guy-Screaming-at-Another-Guy

Why do I need to fit in the cookie cutter? Be another clone to  become a Stepford wife. I have to say that people would use the word NORMAL now, but it is not normal? Sure we have the right to see who we want but it is all a lie. If it is not about social status it is about what you look like. What happen to don’t judge a book by its cover? Is it wrong for a girl that is a few pounds over weight or totally over weight to get the hot guy with muscles. And the geeky girl with glasses get the hot party guy. What about the science guy finding love with a hot model or a comic con guy finding it with a beauty queen. Or is it to remain fantasy for so many?

ANSWER.…. It wouldn’t work socially. Really!!! Do you know them all personally? Did you date one of them cause how can you tell me that it is not acceptable for any of these people that are seen as incompatible can’t date or even love? Social media has made it mostly impossible for more than half the world to function without the guideline about who to date and what to avoid.

urlDating…. Social media and networks are the future dating sites. You don’t need to go out on a date to get to know someone. just login and STALK their profile. Easy fast and best place to avoid any awkward moments or even taking the risk of finding true love.

“O no I wouldn’t date him look at his profile pic. And there is no selfies…. ”

Ahg don’t get it. Just cause he is not photogenic doesn’t mean he is not the person for you. What about you? Do you think you are online dating worthy? Is there not someone out there now looking at your profile and thinking that you are undated-able? How would you know?


Do you Like the face to face date that makes everything WORTH going through? That just maybe love will come unexpectedly…. world-without-wb-one-tree-hill-rain-2

So the big question now is how do you KNOW if it is love or just a crush?

Think about it………


“It’s like I’m thirteen again and he’s my crush. All I’m aware of in this entire roomful of people is him. Where he is, what he’s doing, who he’s talking to.”
Sophie Kinsella, Remember Me?

“He barely knew I existed. I knew some of the same people he knew, but I was a girl in the background, several degrees of seperation removed.”
Rick Yancey, The 5th Wave

“Never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game.”
Hilary Duff

“…we’re all fucking Duffs.”
(Designated Ugly Fat Friend)
“I’m not the Duff,” Wesley said confidently.
“That’s because you don’t have friends.” (Bianca)
“Oh. Right.”

Kody Keplinger, The DUFF: Designated Ugly Fat Friend


Back to reality

Hey to all I hope everyone had a fantastic festive season. For that I have had(smile)

I know that I have been neglecting my blog but with good reason. For the last couple of weeks I have traveled, moved, celebrated and enjoyed a Holiday over the festive season. (wish I could do some of it all over again. Sigh) But any way I am back to reality. It is some what more comfortable then I would like to admit. Routine, work, people. I seem to have missed it a little.

Deep down I wish that 548760_396792177065425_570958745_nit was again the start of my holiday where I was on my way to my cousins wedding (what a way to kick start a holiday) Ithala game reserve lodge. WOW what a place to be. Gorgeous place to have a wedding.

In Kwazulu-natal South Africa, I found myself in a peace of Eden. Beauty of nature and rustic architecture made it a place were you are one one with nature. (And not far from technology)

Surrounded by bush veld trees and wild animals made it more  like a Jungle book scene then a wedding venue.



Naming just some of the Wild Animals listed at this reserve – Elephant, Rhinoceros, Giraffes, diverse buck (spring buck, water buck etc.) zebra’s, baboons, monkeys, etc. 67982_10200290735693341_1407795641_n380589_10200290728893171_1366168301_n

Enough advertizing. We had such a wonderful time there that it seems like a life time ago. The wedding was all and all lovely and was a good start too. Having a wedding in one of world’s most beautiful places is amazing to witness and maybe one day, shall I be as lucky to get a nature wedding too.


I admit I am a sucker when it

comes to weddings – I just love it. (maybe I should have become a wedding planner)


So after the wedding my holiday was on track with every moment planned – doing nothing for as long as I could. Until the big move. (oohg) What a mission boxes and furniture every where you looked making me nerves . How am I going to move all that.

I must say I have some pretty awesome friends that was more then happy to help me move. (Next time I am moving with just my clothes. Into a place that is already furnished) Sipping ice cold beer under the big oak tree was a reward like no other. We were done everything was in its place. The relaxing can start again.

Just wait Tomorrow is the end of the word (LOL) we had a streetbraai to make a moment of 21 December 2012. Friends all together laughing talking and eating amazing watermelon while the men stood with braai – meat ready like just South African’s can.

Family – The one thing that I have plenty of (not complaining about it) it is great to have so much to be thankful for. Christmas is the best time to spend with family and friends.  Now it seems like a dream. Everybody has their special way of celebrating Christmas now.

New years – Time to say goodbye to the old and hello to the new. New years resolutions made for what would be – hope to be a kick ass 2013….

So to end my post for today I would like to say may all have a happy New year filled with Love, Joy, Happiness and peace.