Crushing on someone….. why it can’t work and is there love out there????

Finally getting time to write and it feels like ages since I have last been on this site. So quick recap on what has been going on.

Work. Work. Work and ..uhm work. Welcome to my dull life.



Okay I am admitting it. I have a crush and it is making me go mad inside out…

The problem is it is NEVER going to work. How do I know this? Cause I do have eyes and I can see that if there was a mere chance of this being something it would end in disaster.

When people encourage the fact that you might feel something for someone more than friends, don’t go on it cause stalking is WEIRDstalking-cat-o

May it be on a online or in real life. It can be seen as not harmful but sooner or later it may cause you to over annualized and  over react when that person is near. Trying to be near to him/her when you share company. often looking their way to see a glimpse of what you think you want more than anything. Freaking out to never be near you again is the end result.

Now for the person being stalked, it is flattering in the beginning then it begins so become a hassle to live with before getting scary like some of the shows on CRIME CHANNEL. My BFF tried to kill me. Stalkers. How-I-Met-Your-Mother

Scary as in they begin to think that you are capable of that if it is not stopped, but the bad thing about this is that it is done in the wrong ways 70% of the time.

Taking in consideration that each and every situation is different it all comes to the same point. Do you really want to be the WEIRDO and outcast of everybody.

There are so many ways of stalking it is scary to think it is happening every second of everyday. It might be you or your best friend or some stranger doing it. So take caution and think before you take crushing on someone to the next level.tumblr_ld5pilcmQw1qaxdato1_500

Back to the part of people/friends telling you that your crush has feelings for you after they find out about the crush bit. It is astoundingly the worst advice someone can give you but it is kind of reassurance that you are not in a bottomless pit. I have given that speech about a few times that time will tell and so on but in the end. What matters most is that if you guys were meant to be it would happen.


Don’t push the envelope cause you can’t wait for the RIGHT ONE, you might find that you can burn easily. Other than disappointment there will be regret, shame and dread. But the heart ache always seems to last only for as long as you are still fascinated by that person. Until the next one comes along…


They say that falling in LOVE is like taking a leap and trusting that you don’t fall. But is crushing really love? Does it really compare to true love? Some have proved to me that when you fall in love with someone it can start with a crush and end in happy ever after. But that is like one 1 out of 7 that it can happen to (guessing here the number can be higher in the odds of it happening.)

So is it love or just FASCINATION? What is the difference? so I ask something different – why do people fall out of love so quickly? Is it because of mistaken fascination as love? Another why is Divorce rate so high over the world? Is it because of society placing the perfect wife or husband and people fall for image more than what their hearts want? Daily-Life-GIFs-20-Guy-Screaming-at-Another-Guy

Why do I need to fit in the cookie cutter? Be another clone to  become a Stepford wife. I have to say that people would use the word NORMAL now, but it is not normal? Sure we have the right to see who we want but it is all a lie. If it is not about social status it is about what you look like. What happen to don’t judge a book by its cover? Is it wrong for a girl that is a few pounds over weight or totally over weight to get the hot guy with muscles. And the geeky girl with glasses get the hot party guy. What about the science guy finding love with a hot model or a comic con guy finding it with a beauty queen. Or is it to remain fantasy for so many?

ANSWER.…. It wouldn’t work socially. Really!!! Do you know them all personally? Did you date one of them cause how can you tell me that it is not acceptable for any of these people that are seen as incompatible can’t date or even love? Social media has made it mostly impossible for more than half the world to function without the guideline about who to date and what to avoid.

urlDating…. Social media and networks are the future dating sites. You don’t need to go out on a date to get to know someone. just login and STALK their profile. Easy fast and best place to avoid any awkward moments or even taking the risk of finding true love.

“O no I wouldn’t date him look at his profile pic. And there is no selfies…. ”

Ahg don’t get it. Just cause he is not photogenic doesn’t mean he is not the person for you. What about you? Do you think you are online dating worthy? Is there not someone out there now looking at your profile and thinking that you are undated-able? How would you know?


Do you Like the face to face date that makes everything WORTH going through? That just maybe love will come unexpectedly…. world-without-wb-one-tree-hill-rain-2

So the big question now is how do you KNOW if it is love or just a crush?

Think about it………


“It’s like I’m thirteen again and he’s my crush. All I’m aware of in this entire roomful of people is him. Where he is, what he’s doing, who he’s talking to.”
Sophie Kinsella, Remember Me?

“He barely knew I existed. I knew some of the same people he knew, but I was a girl in the background, several degrees of seperation removed.”
Rick Yancey, The 5th Wave

“Never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game.”
Hilary Duff

“…we’re all fucking Duffs.”
(Designated Ugly Fat Friend)
“I’m not the Duff,” Wesley said confidently.
“That’s because you don’t have friends.” (Bianca)
“Oh. Right.”

Kody Keplinger, The DUFF: Designated Ugly Fat Friend


Humanity – stupitidy


Annoying message received.

I have received a number of the same messages on Facebook, Whatsapp and BBM. All with the same form and same message to the public. An example of what I received this morning.

” Message from…..(CEO of …..) we have had an over usage of user names on ……”

{Why complain if you are popular social network. Really}

“We are requesting all users to forward this message to their entire contact list. If you do not forward this message, we will take it as your account is invalid and it will be deleted within the next 48 hours.”

{Come on guys How can the social network read your most private conversations that you have with a number of people on your phone or computer? Think about it if you send in a private message some confidential info to just one person on any of these networks. Do you think it would be private if the CEO or any member working for that network could read or see what you text or tipped. This makes me sure stupidity is a well know trade or trademark in a very large percentage of the world. }

“Please DO NOT ignore this message or ….. will no longer recognise {I am tipping it from the message and look… a spelling mistake, wonder how that happened} your activation. If you wish to re-activate your account after it has been deleted a charge of 25.00″{ is it Dollars or Rands or Euros}

{Any account that you activate on a social network be it on a Facebook, BBM, Whatsapp, Flirt or any dating network. You activated it and you are the only one that has the power to delete it. Phone networks like BBM and whatsapp work with their own payment agreement that you signed up for. BBM is a monthly deduction from your airtime that gives you a service of a number of free applications like the social networking Blackberry messenger, games and  Surfing the web to name just a few. Whatsapp has ‘n yearly subscription fee of  $0.99 that is deducted from you airtime also a once off that you have to give authority to. (if you are using the free trail year and some of those who’s where extended for longer – you still don’t have any subscription fees to pay) }

“We are also aware of the issue involving the picture updates not showing. We are working diligently on fixing this problem and it will be up and running as soon as possible. Thank you for your cooperation from the ….. team.”

{Any body can write a message like this and sign it of with the name or brand of a corporation or network}

“…. is going to cost us money soon. The only way that it will stay free is if you are a frequent user i.e. you have at least 10 people you are chatting with. To become a frequent user send this message to 10 people who receive it (2 ticks) and your …. logo should turn red {any color} to indicate a frequent users {another mistake made}”

{O’ please. Change color? Are you sure? really… lol. People say they are intelligent due to the fact that they are the advanced species on earth. proven wrong so many times this being one of them.

Scenario 1 – you are on a social network suddenly you get this message

Do you                a)  Panic and send it to the whole list

b) read it carefully and then send it on to the number indicated

c) delete text due to the fact it is spam.

Less intelligent person would go for a or b. And after my ranting about the spam a idiot will claim that c is his or her answer. Lying about the fact that they are guilty for sending this.

Please take note that if you would receive such a message it would not be broadcasted from one person to the other.

The CEO or rather the server of the network would send you a personal private  message for upgrades, payments or  even deactivation of an account. It is not done with chain messaging or broadcasting text.

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Ending with

The difference between stupidity and genius is that genius has its limits.
Albert Einstein